The most powerful person is the one who can control himself. SENECA
Strength is the third principle of personal development. It is your innate ability to consciously change the world around you. When you are weak, you cannot meet your needs and desires, and you become a victim of the environment; when you are strong and successfully create the life you want, your surrounding environment will also reflect this fact.
For some people, power is a dirty word, and it is always associated with the negative concepts of abuse of force, corruption, and greed. But in fact, power is not evil or corrupt in nature. It can be consistent with truth and love, or it can be consistent with falsehood and disconnection. Whether power is used for good or evil is determined by the consciousness behind it.
The trinity of truth, love, and power can be an incredible force for good. When honest and kind people are weak, and hypocritical, cold-blooded people have power, we will not be better off. The world becomes better when people who are aligned with truth and love gain the third element of power. If you can become such a person, please cultivate your own strength consciously, because this decision is good for everyone.
When you successfully increase your strength, you will be able to more easily meet your needs and desires, and it will be easier to set and achieve meaningful goals. On the contrary, you can only immerse yourself in powerlessness and ignore your own needs and desires. Ignoring needs, your body may die; ignoring desires, you will lower your level of consciousness and live as a zombie.
Some belief systems teach us that "weakness is a desirable trait", but don't be fooled. There is nothing more nonsense than this. Powerlessness is neither noble nor intelligent. This is a wrong path rooted in fear, denial and low self-worth. If you want to live more consciously, you must learn to use power wisely, rather than avoid the responsibilities it brings.
Mastering power is not easy. In fact, you may find that cultivating and using power correctly is the biggest challenge in personal development. Nevertheless, strength is still an important part of conscious growth. Without it, you can only become a passive victim of reality. With power, you will become a conscious creator.
To deepen your understanding of power, let us explore its six key components: "responsibility", "desire", "self-determination", "focus", "effort" and "self-discipline."
Unless you take full responsibility for life, you cannot develop your own strength. It doesn't matter what you do, of course, but you are the one who pays for the result in the end, and you can't avoid it. The fat person is dying, you are the one who is out of breath after climbing the stairs; if the credit card is maxed out, who will you not pay it back? If you don't like your job, you have to endure the feeling of "going to work is like going to the grave" every day.
Your experience is your own. I can discuss your life with you, be considerate of your situation, and do my best to help you. But I will only help you for a while, not for the rest of your life. After all, I have to go home and live my life, leaving you behind.
If you try to deny or avoid responsibility, it will soon come back to haunt you. You can indulge yourself, slack off work, eat all kinds of garbage, and yell at your family, but it is you who will experience this mess in the future. The sooner you realize that responsibility is inevitable, the better you will be.
When you were a child, your parents and elders might have taken on some life responsibilities for you, but you still have to deal with the results yourself. Whether you were raised by loving parents or by an irresponsible alcoholic, the burden of life now falls on your shoulders. This may seem too tm unfair, especially when you can't control your childhood. No way, this is life. Note 1
It doesn't make any sense to attribute the misfortune of life to God, parents, the government, or anyone else. Complaining will only make you weak. It doesn t matter who caused your current situation the important thing is that you have to endure it. No more complaints can alleviate this burden.
After being arrested for felony theft at the age of 19, I learned the most important lesson of my life. During the few days in jail, all I could do was to keep reflecting on how I got in. At a certain moment, I realized that I had put myself in that cell: I was in jail because I could not consciously control my life. At that moment, I finally accepted the full responsibility of my life. It still took me several years to fully recover from my mistakes, but I know it evokes my sense of responsibility, which makes it possible for me to create a new life for myself the life of my own choice.
No one will come to save you; no one will give you the career of your dreams; no one will solve your interpersonal problems; no one will help you lose weight. If you do not take the initiative to solve these problems yourself, these problems will never be solved.
If you want a different result, you must create it yourself. Taking full responsibility for life means that you will be willing to do whatever is necessary in order to get the results you want. You must be willing to pay for your needs and desires. You must actively intervene in life instead of letting it play on its own. You will definitely make some mistakes along the way, but never give up on yourself.
On the bright side, although taking full responsibility for your own life can be very challenging, it is not completely infeasible. You may not be able to fully control your life now, but cultivating your own power will give you the opportunity to finally create the life of your choice. The human will is far stronger than any obstacle on your way forward. In the process of pursuing valuable goals, you will definitely encounter challenges and setbacks. As long as you persist and are willing to pay the price, you will succeed in the end. Note 2
Desire is the fuel of power. One of the best things in life is to enjoy the process of gradually realizing desire through your own power. It not only refers to the moment of enjoying great achievements, but also includes savoring and enjoying every step of the process.
what do you want? What are you looking for? What makes you want so much that even if you think it is impossible to get it, you can't get it out of your mind? Allow yourself to have useful dreams. Take the time to cultivate your deep desires, no matter how nonsense they may seem. It s okay to pursue the impossible, but you can t pretend that your wishes are indifferent.
Never deny your desires. When you deny your desires, you will be out of touch with truth, love, and power. Lying to yourself keeps you away from reality; separation from your heart keeps you away from love; cutting off the fuel of desire keeps you away from power. If you want to develop your power, you must accept your desires, no matter how strange they seem.
Most people are out of touch with their true desires. They let others decide what they want, or what they think they can get. They are brainwashed by society, thinking that the purpose of life is to work in a meaningless job for decades, make themselves tired of debts, use unconscious entertainment to distract themselves, get married, have children, go bankrupt and retire, and then silently Die. Therefore, they will always live in the shadows in despair, and will never be able to do anything and be unhappy. Don't succumb to the illusion of false desire. Only real desire can summon real power.
Self-determination (ie self-determination) means that you are completely free to decide what you want. You don't need permission or approval from anyone. Your choice is yours and can never be decided by others. You never need to prove to others what you want. You just want what you want, that's enough.
In order to use power effectively, you must take full responsibility for your life and be willing to make decisions under any circumstances. This includes ambiguous, challenging and dangerous situations. There is no requirement that your decision must be correct. The only requirement is that no matter what happens, you are responsible for it. Since there is no escape, you may wish to consciously participate in the decision-making process, at least so that you can influence the final result to a certain extent.
When you come to an important crossroads in your life, you have to consciously use your own power to make decisions. Provide a clear "yes" or "no" and don't be silent. In order to align yourself with power, you must make real choices.
Life is always asking: What do you want? You can answer this question whatever you want. Aligning yourself with truth and love will help you assess the possibilities, but there is no absolute right or wrong answer, there is only your freedom of choice. Will you be silent, or will you exercise your own conscious choice?
You must break the brainwashing that society has given you-your life must follow a set of rules set by others. You have no such obligation. The only thing that really limits you is your decision and its consequences. Note 3 You are a free and independent person. How to use this freedom is up to you.
The real power exists only in the present. There is no power in the past, and the past has passed; there is no power in the future, and the future only exists in your imagination. You cannot use power yesterday or tomorrow. When your plan transcends the present reality, you will become weak because you succumb to the illusion. Therefore, it makes sense to focus on the present, because this is the only place where you can really use your power.
We tend to treat time as a resource, just like money. To complete an hour's task is to spend an hour on it. How do you spend your day? Where do you want to spend your next vacation? How to spend the lunch break? Although this is a common way to talk about time-bound events, and I often do it myself, this way is fundamentally wrong. Time is not a one-time resource, and you cannot "spend" time. No matter what you do or don't do, time will pass by itself. You cannot choose whether to spend time or not, your only choice is how to direct your current attention.
You will never be in the past or the future. You only exist at this moment. No matter if you are recalling the past or looking to the future, you still think about this in your mind at this moment. All you have is now. You can't stop the passage of time, but you can control your current attention. That's it- there is no past, no future, only the present.
If the only thing that exists is the present, then what is the use of discussing long-term goals? How can we truly achieve any goal?
Realize one thing: you can only act in the moment, and you can only enjoy the results of the moment. You cannot accomplish or experience anything in the past or the future, because you will never be there. When people learn about goal setting, they often set goals that violate this fact. The basic understanding of reality is wrong, and the goals built on it are destined to be difficult to achieve.
The purpose of setting goals is not to control the future, that is meaningless, because the future only exists in your imagination. The focus of goal setting is to improve the quality of your current real life. Setting goals will make you clearer and more focused. Whenever you set a goal to accomplish something, always ask yourself, "Does setting this goal improve my current real life?" If not, then the goal is meaningless and you should give it up. . But if it makes your life clearer and gives you more motivation, then it is a good goal.
Many people set goals and then imagine that they have to endure great pain and sacrifice on the way to achieve them. This is the secret of failure. Whenever you consider a new goal, pay attention to its impact on your current reality. Set goals that feel strong and motivated whenever you focus on it, and avoid goals that make you feel weak, stressed, or weak. Think of goal setting as a way to enhance current attention, not as a way to control the future.
Suppose you decide to start a business. Enjoy it at some point in the future, you will enjoy the feeling of being a boss, doing what you like to do and making a lot of money. So far, there are no problems. Then you start to think about how much effort you need to make, how much risk you will face, and other frustrating thoughts. You have left the present and fell into your own fantasy of the future. Bring your attention back, none of these mourning thoughts happened, they are just your imagination. Thinking about making myself unhappy, stupid or not...
Instead, try this: imagine starting your own business, and imagine how cool it will be when everything is running smoothly. Now bring your attention back to the present, and consider how this goal has improved your quality of life at this moment? Not a year from now, not five years from now, not even tomorrow, but here and now. How does the goal of starting a business help you? Does it give you hope? Does it inspire you? Does it keep you motivated? Let these thoughts circulate in your mind for a while. Consider how the goal of starting a business can improve your current life. If you can't see an immediate improvement, then give up this and change to a different goal.
Do you want to lose weight, fall in love, or enjoy a more fulfilling career? Don't imagine the doom and haze that you will encounter on the road to reaching your goal, think about how each goal can improve your current state before it is achieved. What effect does the idea of staying healthy have on you now? How does the idea of finding a soul mate or a more fulfilling job benefit you? When you focus on these goals, how does your present change? Do you feel more motivated? Do you feel like you want to act for it?
If you set a goal that can improve your current state, what does it matter how long it takes to achieve it? It doesn't matter whether one week or five years. The whole process is very interesting and enjoyable. More importantly, you feel happy and satisfied at this moment. This will drive you to act in a happy state, so you are also very efficient. Don't pursue goals that you feel will make you happy in the distant future, focus on goals that make you happy now.
Whenever you set a goal, you can choose to imagine a path to success full of sacrifice and pain, or you can choose to let the goal inject excitement, enthusiasm and motivation into your present moment. Although it seems that you are setting goals for the future, you are actually doing so for the present. The more you understand this, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.
If you adopt this mentality, you will soon learn to set different types of goals. When you set various goals and pay attention to the impact they bring to yourself, some potential patterns will gradually surface. You will notice that certain types of goals will continue to motivate you, while other types of goals will not. Behind these types of goals are your inner life goals. When you are fully aware of your life goals, as long as you focus on your goals, you can feel great inspiration and motivation anytime, anywhere. You will explore life goals in depth in Chapter 9, which includes a powerful exercise to help you discover your life goals.
After fully recognizing my goals in life, I gradually realized that goals that were very different from them would not motivate me at all, so setting those goals was a waste of my time. Once, I set myself a goal of becoming a millionaire-to have a net worth of at least $1 million. Becoming a millionaire seems to be a valuable milestone in my personal growth, but in fact it is a meaningless goal that I don't care about. Focusing on it keeps me out of touch with others and my true self. I began to see other people as potential dollar signs, not people. When I finally gave up that goal, I immediately felt better, and I turned my attention to other goals that were really important to me. Note 4
Sometimes your intentions will motivate you to set goals that you might refuse to set in other states. When I first launched www.stevepavlina.com in October 2004 , I set a goal: to build the best personal development website in the world. Many people would think this is an unformed goal. For a novice, this goal is vague and difficult to measure. What is the best? There is no deadline for the goal. There are already thousands of competing sites on the Internet. I have no budget and no specific plan to achieve the goal. In addition, I have almost no certificate to endorse no doctorate, no published book, no coaching practice, no workshops or seminars. I am just a game developer with a degree in computing and mathematics.
Despite these problems, whenever I focus on this goal, I feel motivated. I imagine all the people who visit the site, get ideas that are really helpful to them, and leave with satisfaction. This makes me feel strong, and there is a strange hunch-I will succeed!
Focusing on this goal gave me a huge motivation to write, and every week I write and publish new articles for free on the website. In the first four months, the website did not attract much traffic and did not generate any revenue. In the fifth month, it finally had an income of "up to" 53 US dollars. But in the next three years, the number of free articles on the site grew to hundreds, enough to fill about 20 books. I didn't spend a penny on marketing or promotion. I just relied on word of mouth, and the number of website visits increased rapidly to 2 million per month. Due to the increase in traffic, the site began to earn tens of thousands of dollars a month, mainly from advertising, affiliate programs and donations. www.stevepavlina.com was quickly recognized as the most popular, practical and grounded personal development website. The goal is achieved because it gives me the attention and motivation to take action in the moment.
In fact, your goals do not need to be specific, clear, and measurable. You don t need a clear deadline, and you don t need a detailed step-by-step plan. You just need a strong desire to take action. Only goals that match your truest and deepest desires can summon this power.
When you discover the types of goals that really motivate you, you will learn more about yourself. It took me many years to realize that pursuing material goals always left me unmotivated. In my heart, I really didn't take money seriously, nor did I have the motivation to achieve these goals. If necessary, I will retire on a park bench with a "Food for Blog" sign.
What really excites me is helping people grow. When I see people making major breakthroughs in personal growth, I am always ecstatic! This seems to be the best motivation for my actions. When I set a goal centered on having a positive impact on people's lives, I feel empowered and motivated to act.
If your goal looks great but doesn t fill you with desire and motivation when you focus on it, then it s worthless. Don't set useless goals that you don't care about. Even if something seems reliable and achievable, and others encourage you to work hard. If it doesn't excite you, you may not realize it. Focus your attention on the goals that motivate you in the present, because the present is the only place where you have real power.
To turn your wishes into reality, you must act at some point. When you set goals that truly inspire you, you will naturally be motivated to take action. You will work hard, but because of the motivation, it will not look like hard work. In most cases, you are just doing what you like.
What about the Law of Attraction Note 5 ? Can t you just do nothing all day and use the power of intention to attract what you want? That is a serious misunderstanding of how the Law of Attraction works. When you put your heart on the things you want, you will begin to notice new resources in your life. However, if you do not take action, these resources will be exhausted and you will not get closer to your goals.
Your actions are part of the intent manifestation process. Real desire will force you to act. If you do nothing, your intentions are weak. You are trying to do something you don't want to do that way, and it's on its way to dying.
If you find that you don't have a trace of motivation to achieve your goals, then you have set the wrong goals. You have to set the kind of things you can't wait to do. Desire is the fuel of action. If you fuel yourself with fake desires, you won t move at all. No action means no motivation.
What will you do when a long-awaited vacation is about to begin? Will you lie in bed lazily? Do you complain that it is too tiring to catch a plane at the airport? Still feel very excited? If your goal doesn t excite you like a vacation, then it s a terrible goal.
Achieving meaningful goals usually requires great effort, but if the goals you set are right for you, then such efforts will not make you uncomfortable. You will still face obstacles and challenges, but you will have the motivation and strength to deal with them head-on. Choose a goal that keeps you motivated, and work hard is almost effortless.
Self-discipline is another so-called "dirty" word. We are told to relax, let the flow take place, and don't worry. The myth of quick and easy is ubiquitous in modern society. This may persuade you to buy a lot of garbage you don t need, but it s not the way to fill your life with a sense of success and accomplishment.
Even if you have a strong motivation to achieve the goal that really motivates you, sometimes your motivation will weaken, and you must use your willpower to move on. Self-discipline is being willing to do anything to achieve the results you want regardless of your mood. When you feel unmotivated, indifferent, bored, or lazy, self-discipline will inject another wave of motivation into you, allowing you to move on. This is your "failure protection system", an incentive to back up.
It is great to be full of energy, but this kind of motivation is not stable, it has peaks and valleys. Even if you love what you do very much, there will still be many tedious and difficult tasks that you don't like. For example, you enjoy spending time with your children, but there will still be a few days that make you feel that taking care of them is a chore. Of course, you can take a break. You can ask for help when you need it. But even if you take the time to fix it, you still feel that you don t have enough motivation from time to time. At this time, self-discipline is needed to save you.
Motivation and self-discipline are the twin tools of power. Motivation tends to be highest at the start of work. You have just finished your vision, and your goals and dreams are still dancing in your mind. You may have just decided to start a new diet or exercise program. You accepted the challenge willingly, and the first few days were easy. But a few weeks later, the initial momentum has faded. This job is very difficult now, and you want to know if it is worth continuing to work hard. This is where self-discipline prevents you from giving up and gives you the ability to move on firmly regardless of your emotions. Motivation is the beginning of the race, but it is self-discipline that takes you across the finish line.
When you are ready to act, motivation is the highest. When you stop moving forward, your motivation will naturally drop. If you are self-disciplined enough, you can start acting again, and often you will rekindle the natural motivation to move on. It takes a lot of strength to get from a static state to a state of action, but once you start to move forward, it is easier to move on.
Self-discipline must be balanced with reason and wisdom. It doesn't make sense to squeeze yourself to the brink of collapse, but recycling the time that would otherwise be wasted is effective. Self-discipline means taking appropriate action when you should move. This includes completing work strictly on time without taking extreme measures. Staying up late to prepare for exams is not self-discipline-it's just the consequence of delay.
Sometimes I wake up eagerly and slowly, and work easily. Sometimes I feel lazy and lacking energy. Motivation alone is not enough to drive me to accomplish most goals. If you rely solely on motivation, you will not see this book, because it will never be finished. When the motivation is not enough to drive me, self-discipline will take me through those periods. The strong presence in my heart will say: Don t procrastinate, today we must move on! Once I got rid of the first half hour that I didn t want to act, I I almost always want to continue.
Problems, obstacles, and setbacks are not a problem for a self-disciplined person. A self-disciplined person looks at problems like a bodybuilder looks at a barbell: I will lift you and become stronger in the process. A 40-pound dumbbell is light or heavy, depending on how strong you are. Some people think it is very heavy, some people think it is very light. Similarly, the size of the problem is only related to your degree of self-discipline. The more self-disciplined you are, the less problematic your problems will be.
Restricting yourself to do what you want to do (even if you don't like it) is not easy. Establishing a high degree of self-discipline is one of the most difficult things you have ever done. Some people will do almost anything to avoid it-endless procrastination, drug use, and even suicide. Despite the difficulties, self-discipline is still one of the most important aspects of personal development. Without it, you are destined to live in the shadow of your own potential. Once you become self-disciplined enough to consistently implement your best intentions, then you will be able to achieve all the wonderful accomplishments. Setting goals will be a wonderful feeling, because you know that you can trust yourself to do everything you need to achieve your goals.
Impediment to power
There are several obstacles that will try to deny your power and make you give up your goals, thereby weakening you. When you recognize these obstacles, you will learn to embrace your own power and use it wisely. No matter how powerful you were in the past, your true power is still waiting for you.
Shyness is a state of mind that thinks that one is too weak, too small, and too humble to have real power. "Who are you? Why can you live a meaningful life? You are just one of the insignificant among billions of people."
This belief became a self-fulfilling prophecy. In fact, you are very strong, you are just using your strength against yourself, temporarily making yourself weak. You are like a god proclaiming: "Let me be powerless". And this is exactly what happened.
Being timid will make you unable to motivate yourself with small, empty goals-let's assume that you really set goals. You are doing a meaningless job that doesn t matter to you, living in a place you don t care about, and being content with a bunch of mentally weak guys, making you lack self-confidence in interpersonal relationships. These people only treat you as It is another warm body of their "sympathy party". At the same time, your true self is yelling at you, but you let idle entertainment, junk food and other distractions drown out its voice.
You should not live under a rock. That's not you. You seriously underestimate your true ability, which will make you sell yourself cheaply. This is your current reality, and you are responsible for it. Don't try to deny this fact, and face it squarely.
To live in this world is not to get lost in trivial life. Wake up and take a good look at yourself and admit: "I'm a terrible life now! I can do better!" Try to listen to your inner powerful existence once. It will not mislead you.
Cowardly Note 6
Cowardice is the practice of using your own strength to satisfy fear rather than desire. You create what you don't want, not what you want.
When you worry that using power will cause you to make too many mistakes, it breeds fear of failure. In fact, it is true that you sometimes fail, and some failures may be a big pit, but there is nothing to worry about. It is better to fail with a strong presence than to try to avoid the truth and live like a mouse. When you shrink from failure, you only weaken yourself. When you make mistakes and learn from them, you become stronger.
When you worry that using power will bring you too much responsibility, you will breed fear of success. But in fact, fear is useless. You are always responsible for everything in your life. You have no choice but to carry the world on your shoulders, because you can't refuse your factual life. You can never reduce your responsibilities by making yourself weak. The responsibility of life is unavoidable.
The only wise choice is to use your power consciously and do your best. Focus on what you want, not what you don t want, and accept the heavy responsibility commensurate with your strength.
You may be misled into thinking that power is bad or evil in some way. Someone may fool you into putting values such as loyalty, meekness, and obedience above strength. It is no coincidence that those who seek power by intimidating and controlling others will often praise these qualities. Don't give your power to the cunning guys who prey on the weak and lie to you that being strong is wrong.
If you really believe that weakness is better than strength, then logically, you should consciously try to weaken yourself. Damage your health, destroy your career, destroy your relationships, try to make yourself weaker, and then see what it feels like? This is of course counterintuitive, so I hope you won't really do such a stupid thing.
Some common sense perceptions of power are wrong, and I encourage you to drive those wrong common sense out of your mind. Do you like to make yourself weak or strong? Do you want to have more comprehensive or thinner capabilities? Let all those negative beliefs about power that are useless to you go out.
How to develop your own strength
The strength is the same as the muscle. If you don't use it, you will be weaker, and if you use it, you will be stronger. Everyone has some strength, but not everyone cultivates it to the same strength. There are several methods you can use to train yourself.
Training yourself to gradually deal with greater challenges is a good way to cultivate strength, especially self-discipline. When training muscles, you will continue to increase from the weight you can lift, until you reach the limit of your muscles, and then rest. Similarly, you can develop strength by constantly challenging the limits of your abilities. It's not that you keep trying things that are far beyond your ability and fail repeatedly, or that you keep doing things that are not challenging. You must constantly challenge things around the limits of your current ability.
Progressive training requires that once successful, the challenge must be increased. If you continue to exercise at the same level, you will not become stronger.
It is wrong to force yourself too much when developing strength. If you try to set dozens of new goals at once, and then change your entire life overnight, it will be hell if you succeed. It's like the first time a person goes to the gym, and the bench press directly weighs 300 pounds. It will only make you look like a fool. Accept your starting point and don't be too harsh on yourself.
If you start at the bottom of your life, you may find it challenging to just get up before noon and pay your bills on time. After that, you may gradually improve your diet, start exercising, and get rid of bad addictions. As you gain more power in your life, you can try to challenge bigger goals, such as building your dream career and attracting a satisfying relationship.
Don't compare yourself with others. If you think you are weak, others will appear strong; if you think you are strong, other people will appear weak. It doesn't make sense. Just look at where you are now and become stronger as you move forward. Note 7
Suppose you want to develop your ability to concentrate on working for 8 hours every working day. Maybe you tried to work 8 hours a day without distractions, but you can only do it once, and you completely fail the next day. This is totally fine. You represent that you can successfully do it once in a row, and twice is too much for you, so lower the requirements. Can you work attentively for 1 hour a day for 5 consecutive days? If you can't do it, reduce it to 30 minutes or whatever you can. If you succeed, increase the challenge. Once you have mastered at one level for a week, you can increase it by another level next week. Continue this progressive training until the goal is reached.
By raising the bar a little bit every week, you can stay within your abilities and become stronger over time. There is no value in lifting and lowering a piece of metal when doing weight training. The resulting muscle growth is valuable. However, while building strength and self-discipline, you also benefit from the work you do along the way, so better. When your training produces something valuable and at the same time makes you stronger, it is a win-win situation, and it s even better~
Control the first hour
It is said that the first hour of the morning is the rudder of the day, and the way you start the day often sets the tone for the rest of the day. If your first hour of waking is spent in a rigorous routine, you may enjoy a productive day. But if you spend the first hour sloppily, then the rest of the day may be equally unremarkable. Conquer the first hour by exercising, reading, cleaning, writing, or doing other productive tasks.
Many people tell me that every time they complete an important task first thing in the morning, they get a great sense of happiness and energy that lasts for hours. I also had this experience. Completing an important task early in the day is stimulating and full of energy. When you conquer the first hour, you will feel that no matter what happens, the day has been successful.
Just as a salesperson has monthly performance indicators, you can use the concept of "indicators" to improve your performance in any endeavor. Set a minimum daily goal for yourself in a certain area of life. This will ensure that you continue to improve and is a great way to develop self-discipline.
You can use any indicator you want, as long as it suits you. The writer can set the number of words to be coded every day; the basketball player can set the number of three-pointers to make every day. I have tried to use "action" as the indicator and "result" as the indicator.
At first I preferred the former because the goal is easier to control. For me, writing two hours a day is easier than writing 2,000 words a day. Unfortunately, I found that when I use action as an indicator, my output is weaker. I will invest time, but I will not maintain the same motivation. Now I prefer to use results as indicators, such as completing a new article, because I find it makes me more motivated.
I encourage you to try the daily indicators and see what works best for you. Start with small goals that can be easily achieved, and then gradually increase them to keep yourself in the best position for the challenge.
Get the hardest part first
If there are one or two difficult things in the to-do list, deal with them first. Arrange your daily tasks in order from difficult to easy. Many people are accustomed to checking emails first, but when you do this, knowing that the more difficult the work will be later, you usually treat simple tasks as a way of procrastination. Working hard will only make you continue to accept more troublesome tasks. Who will have the motivation to handle work quickly? So you will naturally slow down. This habit often causes the most difficult tasks to be postponed to the next day. This will kill your power, because challenging tasks that you postpone often have the most positive impact.
Conversely, if you arrange tasks in order from difficult to easy, and get the most troublesome thing first, then every time you get a task, you will always get the next easier task as a reward. This will motivate you to maintain a fast pace throughout the day. When you have easier things happen, there is no reason to slow down. Put your daily tasks at the end of the day and see how fast you can complete your work.
I was very surprised by the tremendous changes this habit brought me. In the past, the first thing I did every day was to check my mailbox. It took about 1 hour to process and reply to various emails. Now I prefer to deal with them later in the day, less than 30 minutes on average. I will enter a more concise message, because when I finish, my workday is over.
Get your personal rewards at the end of the day, not at the beginning. Saving the best until the end will make you look forward to it, and you will find that every night makes you look forward to it even more. Finish your work early every day, then relax and enjoy the rest of the time.
If you are a very competitive person, use your natural advantages. The competition is very motivating, and the motivation to win will help you develop your strength. People usually work harder to win than for personal results. The game makes your power visible to the naked eye.
I have participated in several speech contests, because the contests prompted me to work harder to hone my skills. Rather than making the audience more enjoyable, the idea of defeating other speakers will make me more self-disciplined in writing, rehearsing, and finally presenting on stage. The experience of the competition has enhanced my ability to write speeches. Even if I do not participate in the competition, I can write better speeches.
Competitions are common in sales and sports, can you think of other places? Can I open a prize pool in the office to see who can lose the most weight in a month? Can you make a bet with a friend to see who can make the most money in 90 days? Can you compare with your lover and see who can read the most new books in a month?
The advantage of the game is that even if you lose, you can earn some money. You may lose the game, but you will still see positive results, which may be more results than if you have never participated in a game. Competitions are a great way to break the rules and raise your strength to a whole new level. Note 8
Rest is a key component of any weight training, and it is also essential for strengthening strength. Improve yourself through a cycle of hard work and relaxation. After successfully completing a challenge, please rest for a while before proceeding to the next challenge. Stretch, take a walk, and take a nap. Give yourself a chance to relax and recover.
Just as overtraining is risky when lifting weights, there are also risks when building strength. If you feel exhausted and unmotivated for several days in a row, you are pushing yourself too hard. Take a few days off, take a vacation, and recover for the next challenge so you can return to work more energetic.
Being in this world shouldn't just be weak and passive. "One husband and one husband, a thousand ambitions are good plans." Cultivating strength requires hard work, but it is worth it. The greater the power, the more you will enjoy the process of creating your ideal life. The deeper you dig, the more treasures you will find.
Building a successful career, maintaining successful relationships, and achieving financial freedom are all challenging. These rewards will not jump in your arms by themselves. You must win them. Take responsibility for life and face your challenges. Your current problem is to help you grow, not to defeat you. These issues are also very challenging.
Cultivating strength is not just for yourself. When you combine power with truth and love, you can form a great force for good. But to reach that level, you must first master this principle... (see the next chapter)
- Think about the first chapter, no matter how fucking real life is, we all have to accept it, right?
- What the author said is a bit absolute. It is necessary to consider both personal efforts and historical progress. But you should allow yourself to do one thing: if the deciding factor of a thing's success depends only on you, then it can be done. "The good fighters of the past are invincible first, waiting for the enemy to be victorious. The invincibility is in oneself, and the victory is in the enemy." We cannot fully control external factors, so there is no guarantee that "the enemy will be victorious." But we should be able to guarantee that we are "invincible." Only when you are "invincible" and "the enemy can win" (or "the wind is coming") can you have the greatest probability of seizing these opportunities. This is also the translator's understanding of "a gentleman hides his weapon and moves with time." Pulling away, continue to look down.
- Interested students can learn about the history of Chinese legal system. The adjustment of laws and the changes in society and moral standards all change in accordance with the needs of the ruling class or the development of society. It can only be said that there is a reason for their current existence, but there is no need to take them too seriously.
- The author gave a good example. For most people, making money is driven by life, not by their own life pursuits. A good goal is "I want...", not "I need...".
- The translator is also aware of this concept for the first time. Its core idea is: everything you care about will be attracted into your life. The energy and attention you put in will return to yourself. For more information, please refer to The Law of Attraction
- What is the difference between cowardice and cowardice? Simply put, timidity means thinking that oneself can't do it, and cowardice thinks it can do it on one's own, but afraid of failure so dare not go. The two can be collectively referred to as "counseling."
- The most stable frame of reference is oneself. Remember the "diary" mentioned in Chapter 1? Continue to record and compare, and you will obviously observe your own changes, which is very easy to promote a virtuous circle.
- The teenager thinks about it carefully. This passage is compatible with the above-mentioned "Don't compare with others".